Flavor #2: Love (Ahab; Agapao)

(Complete list and links to the 31 Flavors of Wisdom)

Meaning, Essence and Significance: In the Bible, “Love” depicts specific and focused behavior that creates self and other care, in addition to resulting in the development of profound emotional bonds with others. The Hebrew term Ahab describes deep affection and desire for closeness, evident in your family or friendships, and notably, of God’s love for all His children.  The Greek term Agapao refers to a superlative form of love that prioritizes “nutritious” behaviors for your personal benefit, that you’re able to reproduce for the benefit and well-being of others, in your effort to exemplify God’s love for humanity.  It’s from Agapao that we obtain what I call “The 18,” which are eighteen behaviors that flow from and are a product of Love: Love, Esteem, Cherished, Respect, Favor, Honor, Acceptance, Being Prized, Relished, and Being Devoted To, in addition to Joy, Peace, Patience, Kindness, Goodness, Faithfulness, Gentleness and Self-Control.  Together, these concepts reflect that Love is a set of behaviors that when practiced, forge a strong, inspiring and emotional connection with your Higher Power, with yourself, and reflects a conscious commitment to act in the best interests of others (your neighbors).

Practical Appearance and Nutritional Value: This flavor of Love is rich and nourishing, akin to a slow-cooked meal that satisfies the soul. It manifests as choosing to listen rather than defend, being present even when inconvenient, and extending kindness without expectation of return. Such love is expressed through affirming words, deliberate behavior focused on healing, and gestures that communicate the inherent value of others. Love’s “nutritional value” is unparalleled, as it motivates us to create and maintain emotional, spiritual, and relational health in ourselves, and in our interaction with others. Love repairs ruptures, alleviates suffering, mends brokenness, respects boundaries, cultivates growth, amplifies goodness, and emphasizes intentional behavior for the betterment of all involved.​  

Who deserves some of this seasoning?  “My spouse deserves this seasoning from me in every meal we share together. This involves not only affectionate expressions but also deliberate actions reflecting devotion, tenderness, and respect. Practically, it means listening attentively, speaking gently, serving generously, and forgiving readily. It also encompasses delighting in her presence, seeking closeness, and prioritizing our connection. By consistently seasoning our time together with love, I communicate: ‘You matter, you’re seen, you’re deeply valued, and I choose to love you wholeheartedly in both emotion and action.’”

So thanks again for looking at these 31 Flavors of Wisdom and hopefully, participating in the 31 Day Wisdom Challenge!  

Thanks for reading this excerpt from Cultivating Love: Wisdom for Life. As time permits, please visit the other blogs written by Dr. Ken McGill: Daily Bread for Life and “3–2- 5–4–24” for additional information that could be helpful.