What follows are 13 wise and “quick reference” suggestions and strategies to strengthen your Self, and regain trust, balance, harmony and empowerment with your Internal Family System parts. These strategies are best used in conjunction with content in these two posts about Reparenting your Self: 1. Reparenting and Loving Yourself (1.5) with the Shema, Blessing […]
(First posted on June 19, 2016) Happy Father’s Day to you gentlemen! As I contemplate the meaning of the day and some of the experiences that have come with being “Papa” or “Daddie,” here are a few things that come to mind: Father’s Day means I’ve prayed for your safe arrival, learned how to feed, […]
This Wisdom Tool is designed to be used with information in these posts: Use these 48 strategies in conjunction with the “Reparenting and Loving Others (2.0) with the Shema, Blessing and 8 C’s of IFS principles” (#1 above), and the “Wisdom Tool: 48 strategies (#2 above) to enhance your ability to Reparent yourself via Recalibrated […]
This Wisdom Tool is designed to be used with information in these posts: Use these 48 strategies in conjunction with the “Reparenting and Loving Yourself (2.0) with the Shema, Blessing and 8 C’s of IFS principles” (#1 above), and the “Wisdom Tool: McGill’s 48 additional strategies (#2 above) to enhance your ability to Reparent yourself […]
This is the second 3-part set of posts to follow the first 3-part set entitled: Please visit post #1 above (“Reparenting and Loving Yourself, 1.5”) for introductory comments regarding the need and benefit of reparenting yourself, which is the platform from which this second 3-part set about Reparenting and Loving Others (2.0) emerges. As much as […]
This Wisdom Tool is designed to be used with information in these posts: Use these 48 strategies in conjunction with the “Reparenting and Loving Yourself (1.5) with the Shema, Blessing and 8 C’s of IFS principles” (#1 above), and the “Wisdom Tool: 48 strategies (#2 above) to enhance your ability to Reparent yourself via Recalibrated […]
This Wisdom Tool is designed to be used with information in these posts: Use these 48 strategies in conjunction with the “Reparenting and Loving Yourself (1.5) with the Shema, Blessing and 8 C’s of IFS principles” (#1 above), and the “Wisdom Tool: McGill’s 48 additional strategies (#2 above) to enhance your ability to Reparent yourself […]
This list of 100 Attachment and Attunement Needs is inspired by Attachment Theory and Emotionally Focused Therapy. Your goal with this Wisdom Tool is to identify then practice these behaviors to build “Earned Secure Attachments” and Attunement with each other (or your “neighbors”), as these behaviors yield powerful relationship and healing outcomes. Remember, Earned Secure Attachment refers to […]
This list of 100 Attachment and Attunement Needs is inspired by Attachment Theory and Emotionally Focused Therapy. Your goal with this Wisdom Tool is to identify then practice these behaviors to build “Earned Secure Attachments” and Attunement with each other (or your “neighbors”), as these behaviors yield powerful relationship and healing outcomes. Remember, Earned Secure Attachment refers to […]
This list of 100 Attachment and Attunement Needs is inspired by Attachment Theory and Emotionally Focused Therapy. Your goal with this Wisdom Tool is to identify then practice these behaviors to build “Earned Secure Attachments” and Attunement with each other (or your “neighbors”), as these behaviors yield powerful relationship and healing outcomes. Remember, Earned Secure Attachment refers to […]
This list of 100 Attachment and Attunement Needs is inspired by Attachment Theory and Emotionally Focused Therapy. Your goal with this Wisdom Tool is to identify then practice these behaviors to build “Earned Secure Attachments” and Attunement with each other (or your “neighbors”), as these behaviors yield powerful relationship and healing outcomes. Remember, Earned Secure Attachment refers to […]
Flavor 31 – Self-Control (Enkrateia) (Complete list and links to the 31 Flavors of Wisdom) Meaning, Essence, and Significance: Self-Control (or Enkrateia in Greek), the last of the nine Fruit of the Spirit, is the end result of a very fruitful process of growth. Just like the previous eight fruits of the Spirit, Self-Control is deeply rooted in […]
Flavor #30: Peace (Shalom; Eirene) (Complete list and links to the 31 Flavors of Wisdom) Meaning, Essence, and Significance: Peace encompasses more than the absence of conflict. The Hebrew word Shalom points to completeness, wholeness, well-being, and prosperity; a state where all aspects of life are in harmony. Similarly, the Greek term Eirene conveys tranquility and restfulness. Together, these terms illustrate that true peace […]
Flavor #29: Gentleness/Emotional Regulation (Prautes) (Complete list and links to the 31 Flavors of Wisdom) Meaning, Essence, and Significance: The Greek term Prautes, often translated as “gentleness,” embodies strength under control. According to Aristotle, Prautes represents the mean between excessive anger and a complete lack of it, signifying the ability to express anger appropriately, at the right time, in the […]
Flavor #28: Skilled Outcomes (Epiginosko; Prasso; Brabeion/Stephanos) (Complete list and links to the 31 Flavors of Wisdom) 1. Meaning, Essence, and Significance: Skilled Outcomes, especially in love and relational restoration, are grounded in the Greek term Epiginosko: a deep, experiential understanding born from observation, reflection, and intentional action. It moves beyond mere awareness to a comprehensive knowledge (#3) […]
Flavor #27: Skilled Behavior (Ra’ah; Horao; Samar; Oikodomeo; Kun; Scholazo) (Complete list and links to the 31 Flavors of Wisdom) Meaning, Essence, and Significance: Skilled behavior is reflected in your ability to “paint into your reality” attentiveness, perception (#10), deep understanding (#20) and practical action (#25), which are necessary qualities to fulfill your responsibilities with wisdom, skill and […]
Flavor #26: Discipline (Musar; Energes; Hypomone) (Complete list and links to the 31 Flavors of Wisdom) Meaning, Essence, and Significance: The Hebrew term Musar encompasses discipline, instruction, and correction. It implies guidance aimed at your moral and ethical development and is often associated with fatherly correction intended to impart wisdom (#1) and character (#7). In the Book of Proverbs, Musar […]
Flavor #25: Practical Action (Sophia; Ergon) (Complete list and links to the 31 Flavors of Wisdom) Meaning, Essence, and Significance: The Greek term Sophia embodies wisdom that integrates both practical skill and profound insight. It represents wisdom graciously given by God, enabling you to discern what choices and actions are best for you and in your interaction(s) […]
Flavor #24: G. A. S. (Goals, Activities, Skills) (Complete list and links to the 31 Flavors of Wisdom) Meaning, essence, and significance? In The 31 Flavors of Wisdom, the “G. A. S.” framework: Goals, Activities, and Skills, offers a structured approach to personal development. Here you simply ask yourself these three questions to help you create a plan of action to […]
Flavor #23: Prudence (Ormah; Prudentia) (Complete list and links to the 31 Flavors of Wisdom) Meaning, essence, and significance? Prudence, rooted in the Hebrew term ‘Ormah, is the positive outcome of integrating and applying Discretion (#16), Wisdom (#1), Intelligence (#13), and Reason (#12). When these virtues are combined and put into practice, they enable you to develop thoughtful strategies that […]
Flavor #22: Humility (Tsana; Tapeinos) (Complete list and links to the 31 Flavors of Wisdom) Meaning, Essence and Significance: Humility, as expressed by the Hebrew term Tsana, signifies modesty and a humble demeanor, emphasizing a person’s recognition of their limitations and a submissive attitude, particularly in relation to God. The Greek term Tapeinos denotes a state of lowliness or humility, often […]
Flavor #21: Compassion (Splanchnizomai; Splanchnon) (Complete list and links to the 31 Flavors of Wisdom) Meaning, essence, and significance: Compassion is a visceral, emotional and behavioral response that compels you to act to alleviate the suffering experience of another. The Greek term Splanchnizomai is derived from Splanchnon, which is the medical term for the internal organs in your viscera, […]
Flavor #20: Understanding (Binah; Tebunah; Sekel; Syniemi) (Complete list and links to the 31 Flavors of Wisdom) Meaning, essence, and significance: Understanding is the ability to perceive the deeper meaning behind information, discerning patterns and insights that lead to wise behavior. The Hebrew term Binah refers to discernment (#11) and comprehension, enabling one to distinguish between nuances. Tebunah denotes deep […]
Flavor #19: Creativity (Bara; Asah; Tob; Charis) (Complete list and links to the 31 Flavors of Wisdom) Meaning, essence, and significance: Creativity mirrors divine action, embodying the act of crafting intelligent (#13) and intentional experiences of beauty, goodness and connection. The Hebrew term Bara speaks of your engagement in creative activity where the outcome brings something into existence that […]
Flavor #18: Righteousness (Saddiyq; Sedeq) (Complete list and links to the 31 Flavors of Wisdom) Meaning, essence, and significance: Righteousness, rooted in the Hebrew terms Saddiyq and Sedeq, embodies the qualities of justice (#17), integrity (#14), honesty and moral behavior. Righteousness signifies unwavering adherence to ethical principles and fairness, by aspiring to reflect God’s positive character in one’s behavior as […]
Flavor #17: Justice (Mishpat; Dike) (Complete list and links to the 31 Flavors of Wisdom) Meaning, Essence and Significance: Justice, explained by the Hebrew term Mishpat, embodies fairness, equity, and the proper administration of principles and law. It encompasses the entire judicial process: from establishing laws to executing judgments and reflects a societal commitment to righteousness and impartiality. In Greek thought, Dike represents […]
Flavor #16: Discretion (Sekel; Mezimmah; Tebunah) (Complete list and links to the 31 Flavors of Wisdom) Meaning, Essence and Significance: Discretion embodies the judicious application of knowledge, enabling you to make decisions with prudence (#23), insight and tact. The Hebrew term Sekel refers to intelligence (#13) and success, emphasizing discernment that guides your ability to make careful and thoughtful actions […]
Flavor #15: Moral Cognition (Da’at; Hakam; Biyn; Aisthesis; Arete) (Complete list and links to the 31 Flavors of Wisdom) Meaning, Essence and Significance: Moral cognition is the capacity to discern and choose right over wrong, integrating knowledge (#3), wisdom, and ethical sensitivity. The Hebrew term Da’at denotes deep, experiential knowledge that informs your moral judgment. Hakam refers to moral sensitivity, […]
Flavor #14: Integrity (Emet; Yosher; Tom; Alethes) (Complete list and links to the 31 Flavors of Wisdom) Meaning, Essence, and Significance: Integrity embodies the alignment of your actions with truth, in your effort to demonstrate Healthy Adult behavior consistently (by the way, Truth and Integrity come from the same Greek word Alethes). The Hebrew term Emet signifies faithfulness and reliability, reflecting what is […]
Flavor #13: Intelligence (Hokma; Sakal; Biyn) (Complete list and links to the 31 Flavors of Wisdom) Meaning, Essence and Significance: Intelligence is more than your cognitions and cognitive ability at work; it embodies assessing situations and tasks, determining what’s the best next step to take, then doing just that, to obtain the best of all […]
Flavor #12: Reason (Logos; Dianoia) (Complete list and links to the 31 Flavors of Wisdom) Meaning, Essence and Significance: Reason is the product and gift of discourse, thoughtful engagement (#8) and discernment (#11). The Greek term Logos encompasses “word,” “speech,” and “principle,” and in Greek philosophy, Logos involved reflecting, mediating, and speaking with purpose, where emotions and truth are […]
Flavor #11: Discernment (Biyn; Tebunah) (Complete list and links to the 31 Flavors of Wisdom) Meaning, Essence and Significance: Discernment is the ability to perceive and distinguish between different elements, leading to informed decisions. The Hebrew term Biyn conveys the act of mentally separating or distinguishing, enabling you to understand and consider matters deeply. Tebunah refers to intelligence or insight derived […]
Flavor #10: Perception (Sekel; Aisthanomai) (Complete list and links to the 31 Flavors of Wisdom) Meaning, Essence and Significance: Perception involves discerning and understanding beyond surface appearances. The Hebrew term Sekel denotes intelligence and insight, emphasizing prudence and wisdom that leads to success. In the Greek, Aisthanomai refers to Perception being an intuitive knowledge, but it is also a knowledge gained […]
Flavor #9: Learning (Leqach; Ozen; Shamar) (Complete list and links to the 31 Flavors of Wisdom) Meaning, Essence and Significance: Learning transcends information acquisition, and points toward your engagement in an active, transformative process. The Hebrew term Leqach refers to instruction or teaching, emphasizing the importance of internalizing wisdom. Ozen, meaning “ear,” signifies attentive listening (#4), highlighting that true […]
Flavor #5: Awareness (Yada; Syneidesis) (Complete list and links to the 31 Flavors of Wisdom) Meaning, Essence and Significance: Awareness embodies profound understanding of yourself, that is, your ability to notice, understand, make sense of and interpret your thinking, feeling, and internal sensations and within reason, your ability to do the same with others. The Hebrew […]
Flavor #4: Listening (Ozen; Shama; Akouo) (Complete list and links to the 31 Flavors of Wisdom) Meaning, Essence and Significance: Listening transcends auditory perception; it embodies active engagement and responsiveness. The Hebrew term Ozen refers to the ear, the organ of hearing. Shama extends this concept to imply hearing with attention, understanding, and obedience. In the New Testament, the Greek word Akouo conveys hearing […]
Flavor #3: Knowledge (Da’at; Ginosko; Epiginosko; Oida) (Complete list and links to the 31 Flavors of Wisdom) Meaning, Essence and Significance: Knowledge in biblical terms transcends mere information; it embodies personal, experiential, and relational understanding. The Hebrew term Da’at signifies a contemplative wisdom rooted in reverence for God, as God provides clarity with my morals and anchors my spirituality […]
Flavor #2: Love (Ahab; Agapao) (Complete list and links to the 31 Flavors of Wisdom) Meaning, Essence and Significance: In the Bible, “Love” depicts specific and focused behavior that creates self and other care, in addition to resulting in the development of profound emotional bonds with others. The Hebrew term Ahab describes deep affection and desire for closeness, evident […]
Flavor #1: Wisdom (Hakam, Hokma, Sekel, Sophia) (Complete list and links to the 31 Flavors of Wisdom) Meaning, Essence and Significance: Wisdom transcends the mere gaining of knowledge; it embodies skillful living that demonstrates you know what to do when the situation you’re in requires the right response. In Hebrew, Hokma refers to both practical skills and intellectual insight, […]
(Complete list and links of the 31 Flavors of Wisdom) “If you are wise, your wisdom will reward you…” Proverbs 9:12 (TNIV) “Let food be thy medicine and medicine be thy food” – Hippocrates, the Father of Medicine While doing research in the Book of Proverbs on the subject of Wisdom (in addition to the Bible as […]
“There is no fear in love, because perfect love casts out fear…” I John 4:18 (TNIV) Let me remind you that Dr. Spiros Zodhiates in the Hebrew – Greek Key Study Bible defines Wisdom (Sophia) as “Skill in the affairs of life, evidenced by the possession of a certain adeptness or practical ability to apply skillfully what one knows in respect […]
An excerpt from the book “Cultivating Love: Wisdom for Life” by Dr. Ken McGill SECTION ONE: THE BENEFITS OF WISDOM “In the house of the wise are stores of choice food and oil…” “Pleasant words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones” Proverbs 21:20 and Proverbs 16:24 (TNIV) Integrated Wisdom: […]
The locus of my integrated treatment in the Cultivating Love book series is based on the 7 Core Areas, which is extracted from the New Testament scripture where the Two Greatest Commandments are written, in Luke 10:25 – 37. Decades ago, when I read… “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all […]