What follows are 13 wise and “quick reference” suggestions and strategies to strengthen your Self, and regain trust, balance, harmony and empowerment with your Internal Family System parts. These strategies are best used in conjunction with content in these two posts about Reparenting your Self: 1. Reparenting and Loving Yourself (1.5) with the Shema, Blessing […]
(First posted on June 19, 2016) Happy Father’s Day to you gentlemen! As I contemplate the meaning of the day and some of the experiences that have come with being “Papa” or “Daddie,” here are a few things that come to mind: Father’s Day means I’ve prayed for your safe arrival, learned how to feed, […]
This Wisdom Tool is designed to be used with information in these posts: Use these 48 strategies in conjunction with the “Reparenting and Loving Others (2.0) with the Shema, Blessing and 8 C’s of IFS principles” (#1 above), and the “Wisdom Tool: 48 strategies (#2 above) to enhance your ability to Reparent yourself via Recalibrated […]
This Wisdom Tool is designed to be used with information in these posts: Use these 48 strategies in conjunction with the “Reparenting and Loving Yourself (2.0) with the Shema, Blessing and 8 C’s of IFS principles” (#1 above), and the “Wisdom Tool: McGill’s 48 additional strategies (#2 above) to enhance your ability to Reparent yourself […]
This is the second 3-part set of posts to follow the first 3-part set entitled: Please visit post #1 above (“Reparenting and Loving Yourself, 1.5”) for introductory comments regarding the need and benefit of reparenting yourself, which is the platform from which this second 3-part set about Reparenting and Loving Others (2.0) emerges. As much as […]
One of the gifts that comes with recalibrating your wisdom means you get to take the power back and choose how you wish to use your life energy to cultivate love, wisdom and healthy adult mode behavior in your life; this is truly empowering! No longer do you have to live by the “tyranny of the […]
This list of 100 Attachment and Attunement Needs is inspired by Attachment Theory and Emotionally Focused Therapy. Your goal with this Wisdom Tool is to identify then practice these behaviors to build “Earned Secure Attachments” and Attunement with each other (or your “neighbors”), as these behaviors yield powerful relationship and healing outcomes. Remember, Earned Secure Attachment refers to […]
This list of 100 Attachment and Attunement Needs is inspired by Attachment Theory and Emotionally Focused Therapy. Your goal with this Wisdom Tool is to identify then practice these behaviors to build “Earned Secure Attachments” and Attunement with each other (or your “neighbors”), as these behaviors yield powerful relationship and healing outcomes. Remember, Earned Secure Attachment refers to […]
Flavor 31 – Self-Control (Enkrateia) (Complete list and links to the 31 Flavors of Wisdom) Meaning, Essence, and Significance: Self-Control (or Enkrateia in Greek), the last of the nine Fruit of the Spirit, is the end result of a very fruitful process of growth. Just like the previous eight fruits of the Spirit, Self-Control is deeply rooted in […]
Flavor #30: Peace (Shalom; Eirene) (Complete list and links to the 31 Flavors of Wisdom) Meaning, Essence, and Significance: Peace encompasses more than the absence of conflict. The Hebrew word Shalom points to completeness, wholeness, well-being, and prosperity; a state where all aspects of life are in harmony. Similarly, the Greek term Eirene conveys tranquility and restfulness. Together, these terms illustrate that true peace […]
Flavor #29: Gentleness/Emotional Regulation (Prautes) (Complete list and links to the 31 Flavors of Wisdom) Meaning, Essence, and Significance: The Greek term Prautes, often translated as “gentleness,” embodies strength under control. According to Aristotle, Prautes represents the mean between excessive anger and a complete lack of it, signifying the ability to express anger appropriately, at the right time, in the […]
Flavor #28: Skilled Outcomes (Epiginosko; Prasso; Brabeion/Stephanos) (Complete list and links to the 31 Flavors of Wisdom) 1. Meaning, Essence, and Significance: Skilled Outcomes, especially in love and relational restoration, are grounded in the Greek term Epiginosko: a deep, experiential understanding born from observation, reflection, and intentional action. It moves beyond mere awareness to a comprehensive knowledge (#3) […]
Flavor #27: Skilled Behavior (Ra’ah; Horao; Samar; Oikodomeo; Kun; Scholazo) (Complete list and links to the 31 Flavors of Wisdom) Meaning, Essence, and Significance: Skilled behavior is reflected in your ability to “paint into your reality” attentiveness, perception (#10), deep understanding (#20) and practical action (#25), which are necessary qualities to fulfill your responsibilities with wisdom, skill and […]
The 31 Day Wisdom Challenge Over the next 31 days, I encourage you to do the following: 1. I encourage you to read each of the 31 Flavors on the numerical day of the month upon which it falls (i.e., Day 1 – Flavor #1: Wisdom; Day 6 – Flavor #6: Empathy, etc.). 2. Integrate, […]
Flavor #25: Practical Action (Sophia; Ergon) (Complete list and links to the 31 Flavors of Wisdom) Meaning, Essence, and Significance: The Greek term Sophia embodies wisdom that integrates both practical skill and profound insight. It represents wisdom graciously given by God, enabling you to discern what choices and actions are best for you and in your interaction(s) […]
Flavor #22: Humility (Tsana; Tapeinos) (Complete list and links to the 31 Flavors of Wisdom) Meaning, Essence and Significance: Humility, as expressed by the Hebrew term Tsana, signifies modesty and a humble demeanor, emphasizing a person’s recognition of their limitations and a submissive attitude, particularly in relation to God. The Greek term Tapeinos denotes a state of lowliness or humility, often […]
Flavor #20: Understanding (Binah; Tebunah; Sekel; Syniemi) (Complete list and links to the 31 Flavors of Wisdom) Meaning, essence, and significance: Understanding is the ability to perceive the deeper meaning behind information, discerning patterns and insights that lead to wise behavior. The Hebrew term Binah refers to discernment (#11) and comprehension, enabling one to distinguish between nuances. Tebunah denotes deep […]
Flavor #19: Creativity (Bara; Asah; Tob; Charis) (Complete list and links to the 31 Flavors of Wisdom) Meaning, essence, and significance: Creativity mirrors divine action, embodying the act of crafting intelligent (#13) and intentional experiences of beauty, goodness and connection. The Hebrew term Bara speaks of your engagement in creative activity where the outcome brings something into existence that […]
Flavor #18: Righteousness (Saddiyq; Sedeq) (Complete list and links to the 31 Flavors of Wisdom) Meaning, essence, and significance: Righteousness, rooted in the Hebrew terms Saddiyq and Sedeq, embodies the qualities of justice (#17), integrity (#14), honesty and moral behavior. Righteousness signifies unwavering adherence to ethical principles and fairness, by aspiring to reflect God’s positive character in one’s behavior as […]
Flavor #16: Discretion (Sekel; Mezimmah; Tebunah) (Complete list and links to the 31 Flavors of Wisdom) Meaning, Essence and Significance: Discretion embodies the judicious application of knowledge, enabling you to make decisions with prudence (#23), insight and tact. The Hebrew term Sekel refers to intelligence (#13) and success, emphasizing discernment that guides your ability to make careful and thoughtful actions […]
Flavor #15: Moral Cognition (Da’at; Hakam; Biyn; Aisthesis; Arete) (Complete list and links to the 31 Flavors of Wisdom) Meaning, Essence and Significance: Moral cognition is the capacity to discern and choose right over wrong, integrating knowledge (#3), wisdom, and ethical sensitivity. The Hebrew term Da’at denotes deep, experiential knowledge that informs your moral judgment. Hakam refers to moral sensitivity, […]
Flavor #14: Integrity (Emet; Yosher; Tom; Alethes) (Complete list and links to the 31 Flavors of Wisdom) Meaning, Essence, and Significance: Integrity embodies the alignment of your actions with truth, in your effort to demonstrate Healthy Adult behavior consistently (by the way, Truth and Integrity come from the same Greek word Alethes). The Hebrew term Emet signifies faithfulness and reliability, reflecting what is […]