Welcome back NFL!  As I was watched the Professional Football Hall of Fame induction ceremonies last night, this post came to mind (and thank you Hall of Famer Charles Haley for encouraging teammates to get help when they need it!):

Vince Lombardi was probably one of the greatest Head Football Coaches in the history of the National Football League. It has been said that Coach Lombardi, winner of the first 2 Super Bowl trophies and whose namesake is on the coveted Super Bowl trophy, used to tell the story that his team would make no secrets about the plays that they would run in the all important Sunday game. Nor, would Lombardi install elaborate “razzle-dazzle” plays in an attempt to fool the opposing team.

Coach Lombardi simply said of his offense: “we are going to run six plays, however, we are going to execute them so well that we will score on each play.” Coach Lombardi’s philosophy about the importance of teamwork and the role that each team member had to fulfill made believers and winners with the men that he coached to championships. By the way, please think about what your six “go to” plays or strategies are that could help you to be successful.

As we look at being victorious with our addictive behavior, we are encouraged to take a page or two from Coach Lombardi’s “playbook.”

First, if Lombardi’s teams were going to win, they had to realize the value of the team. No one person wins the game, rather it is a combination of the joint effort of eleven men on offense, and eleven men of defense, and the overall effort of the 53 man squad and the coaches and his staff.

As we look at sexual compulsivity or any other addictive behavior, it is important for us to realize that we cannot win the game over our addiction alone. Our God never intended for us to block cravings, tackle out of control thoughts and pass over “slippery places” by ourselves and yet sometimes we approach the “game” of trying to achieve progress with our addiction this way. In every life situation our Higher Power desires for us to take a “team” approach toward the alluring problems that challenge us (James 5:16; Matthew 18:20; 1 Corinthians 4:16 – listed below).

Second, Coach Lombardi’s philosophy emphasized that each person on the team has a role to fulfill and that in order for the team to succeed each person must perform his role to the fullest if the team is to experience success.  So who are the other teammates and what roles do they fulfill in helping you to experience success with your addiction? Glad you asked!

The person who has struggled with out of control addictive behavior has been told to “pray more,” “think good thoughts” or “read more scripture” without utilizing the other powerful “teammates” such as clinical psychotherapy and/or pastoral counseling, a therapist-led psychotherapy group or attendance in a 12 group and finally evidence based relapse prevention strategies or even medicine to treat their addiction.

Don’t get me wrong, prayer, scripture and healthy thoughts are strong role-players to enlist as we endeavor to be successful with addictive behaviors however a multifaceted and multi-systemic total effort is also necessary, which usually involves all of the necessary “strong players” to ensure maximum effectiveness and breakthroughs. Remember, our goal is to champion our addiction and the strategy to be employed in this battle will hopefully be team-driven, because the team works!

In Hall of Fame Insight To Overcome Addiction (Part 2 of 2) we will look at strategic questions that serve as “plays” for you to implement with your teammates as you work to experience progress in overcoming your addictive behaviors.  These questions will fall under the acrostic “T – E – A – M,” as we are simply encouraged to examine our…

T: Thinking

E: Emotions

A: Actions

M: Morals and Mentors

“Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective” – James 5:16 (TNIV)

“For where two or three come together in my name, there am I with them” – Matthew 18:20 (TNIV)

“Therefore I urge you to imitate me” – 1 Corinthians 4:16 (TNIV)

Thanks for visiting and please visit the other blogs written by Dr Ken McGill: Daily Bread for Life and “3 – 2 – 5 – 4 – 24″ for additional information that could be helpful. I welcome your comments below or via email and your favorites, your retweets and your “+1’s” if you have a brief moment and find the information helpful. Again, it is my desire to provide the very best info for your consideration.

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Join the conversation! 4 Comments

  1. excellent points! including a pingback this in a future post . Thanks for your transparent journey and hopeful writings. Many folks will benefit and be heartened.

  2. Great post! So many of us try and implement skills (TEA), but go it alone and ignore the M (TEAM) teamwork aspect. This can be the most powerful part. I look at the names in the huddle and see the Triplets – Aikman, Irvin and Emmit – but look at the other names that made it all happen, like Tuinei, Johnston, Gogan, etc. It took all of them and they all had something to contribute. This helps me look at ways I need to rely on others to help me be the person God wants me to be and to encourage others to do the same. . . . Mary


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About Dr Ken McGill

Dr. Ken McGill is an ordained minister and has been involved in counseling for more than 25 years. Dr. McGill holds a Bachelor's degree in Religion from Pacific Christian College (now Hope International University), a Certificate of Completion in the Alcohol and Drug Studies/Counseling Program from the University of California at Los Angeles and a Masters degree in Clinical Psychology from Antioch University. Dr. McGill received his Doctorate in Clinical Psychology with an emphasis in Family Psychology from Azusa Pacific University in May, 2003. Dr. McGill's dissertation focused on the development of an integrated treatment program for the sexually addicted homeless population, and Ken was "personally mentored" by dissertation committee member Dr. Patrick Carnes, a pioneer in the field of sex addiction work. Dr. McGill authored a chapter in the text The Clinical Management of Sex Addiction, with his chapter addressing the homeless and sex addiction. Dr. McGill is also a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in the States of Texas and California and Mississippi, and is a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist, through the International Institute for Trauma and Addictive Professionals (IITAP). Dr. McGill had a private practice in Glendora, CA (Aspen Counseling Center), Inglewood, CA (Faithful Central Bible Church), and Hattiesburg, MS (River of Life Church), specializing in the following areas with individuals, couples, families, groups and psychoeducational training: addictions and recovery, pre-marital, marital and family counseling, issues related to traumatization and abuse, as well as depression, grief, loss, anger management and men's and women's issues. Dr. McGill also provided psychotherapeutic treatment with Student-Athletes on the University of Southern Mississippi Football and Men's Basketball teams. Dr. McGill served as the Director of the Gentle Path Program, which is a seven-week residential program, for people who are challenged with sexual addiction, sexual anorexia, and relationship issues. Dr. McGill also supervised Doctoral students in the Southern Mississippi Psychology Internship Consortium with the University of Southern Mississippi. Dr. McGill was inducted into the Azusa Pacific University Academic Hall of Honor, School of Behavioral and Applied Sciences, in October, 2010. Dr. McGill currently works as a Private practice clinician with an office in Plano, Texas, providing treatment with people who are challenged in the areas mentioned above.


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