This Wisdom Tool is designed to be used with information in these posts: Use these 48 strategies in conjunction with the “Reparenting and Loving Others (2.0) with the Shema, Blessing and 8 C’s of IFS principles” (#1 above), and the “Wisdom Tool: 48 strategies (#2 above) to enhance your ability to Reparent yourself via Recalibrated […]
This Wisdom Tool is designed to be used with information in these posts: Use these 48 strategies in conjunction with the “Reparenting and Loving Yourself (2.0) with the Shema, Blessing and 8 C’s of IFS principles” (#1 above), and the “Wisdom Tool: McGill’s 48 additional strategies (#2 above) to enhance your ability to Reparent yourself […]
This is the second 3-part set of posts to follow the first 3-part set entitled: Please visit post #1 above (“Reparenting and Loving Yourself, 1.5”) for introductory comments regarding the need and benefit of reparenting yourself, which is the platform from which this second 3-part set about Reparenting and Loving Others (2.0) emerges. As much as […]
This list of 100 Attachment and Attunement Needs is inspired by Attachment Theory and Emotionally Focused Therapy. Your goal with this Wisdom Tool is to identify then practice these behaviors to build “Earned Secure Attachments” and Attunement with each other (or your “neighbors”), as these behaviors yield powerful relationship and healing outcomes. Remember, Earned Secure Attachment refers to […]
Flavor #29: Gentleness/Emotional Regulation (Prautes) (Complete list and links to the 31 Flavors of Wisdom) Meaning, Essence, and Significance: The Greek term Prautes, often translated as “gentleness,” embodies strength under control. According to Aristotle, Prautes represents the mean between excessive anger and a complete lack of it, signifying the ability to express anger appropriately, at the right time, in the […]
Flavor #8: Thinking (Esah; Boule; Phronesis) (Complete list and links to the 31 Flavors of Wisdom) Meaning, Essence and Significance: Thinking is more than mental activity; it embodies deliberate and purposeful reflection. The Hebrew term Esah signifies it’s composed of counsel and advice, emphasizing thoughtful planning and prudence. Similarly, the Greek word Boule denotes intentional counsel or purpose, reflecting decisions […]
Thanks for reading the two previous posts, “So what did you learn at your conference?” (Day 1 of 3) and (Day 2 of 3), which highlighted what I learned at the 21st Annual Counseling Skills conference in Dallas, Tx, over September 24th – 26th. As mentioned in the previous posts, I wanted to share a few […]
I attended the 21st Annual Counseling Skills Conference in Dallas this past week (Sept. 24th – 26th) and I wanted to share a few of the helpful things I picked up and learned from the speakers. My hope is to integrate these points into my life personally and professionally, and my hope is that you may […]
Welcome back NFL! As I was watched the Professional Football Hall of Fame induction ceremonies last night, this post came to mind (and thank you Hall of Famer Charles Haley for encouraging teammates to get help when they need it!): Vince Lombardi was probably one of the greatest Head Football Coaches in the history of […]
Thank you for reading Couples Who Recover (Part 1 of 2). Below are a few characteristics and practices that Recovering Couples consider important and helpful as they work toward becoming stronger people who are creating a stronger relationship. “Couples Who Recover” (“CR”) live by their identified values, which helps them to create boundaries that help them […]
Below are a few characteristics and practices that Recovering Couples consider important and helpful as they work toward becoming stronger people who are creating a stronger relationship. Couples who Recover (“CR”) work hard to create safe moments and calm between them, because they realize their discussions facilitate solutions when they are in their adult ego […]
Something deep within tells me this just isn’t going to end very well. Would you agree? And so it is with the use of “The Killer D’s” (to be offset by the Empowering E’s). The Killer D’s are words that begin with the letter “D” and describe processes that I see in my counseling office […]
(An excerpt from Cultivating Love: When Secrets Surface by Dr Ken McGill) Prize is one of the 10 descriptors of Agape, the unique form of love that our Higher Power helps us to develop for our personal benefit and subsequently to be freely, maturely and respectfully demonstrated with others Prize (Brabeion and Stephanos – NT): […]
(An excerpt from Cultivating Love: When Secrets Surface by Dr Ken McGill) Recorded below are some thoughts on 1 Corinthians 13:4-8a. I suggest these to you right now because in light of what you both have experienced, love has been and will always be the answer, the goal, the destination, the focus and the solution. […]